We had a great, very relaxing weekend- with one exception.
We got there at about 7:30 Friday night. I made dinner for the husband and my father. I got a call from a friend of the family who I have known my whole life. She was drunk and giggling. She rattled off a list of the four or five alcoholic beverages she had consumed. She is 23 and obviously still thinks being drunk is "cool". I am not a big drinker. I have 3 MAYBE 4 drinks a year
. (although, after trying a raspberry Smirnoff Ice
last night that might change.)
So, when she asked if me and the husband wanted to meet her at a bar my first question was "how are you getting there?"
She told me that she had a bunch of friends with her and that one of them was the designated driver.
We agreed to meet her. When we got there she was adding a glass of wine to her long list of drinks. She was also acting drunk, but not in a good way. At one point one of her friends who I had never met before was asking the husband and I what it was like to have Dexter in the city (because she was thinking of getting a dog). My friend drunkenly attempted to "make fun of me" by saying "are you talking about your animals AGAIN?"
I replied that I was just trying to answer someone's question.
She wasn't being a fun drunk she was being an annoying drunk, and you could tell that she was making people feel awkward.
We were all pretty tired and everyone decided to leave at about 11pm.
I noticed that she was saying goodbye to all of her friends. As in "see you tomorrow!"
I asked how she was getting home.
"You can't drive, you've been drinking"
"Torrie, I drove here"
"WHAT? You've been drinking. Please let me drive you home"(neither the husband, nor I had a sip of alcohol and we were staying a block from her house)
"Torrie, I'm fine"
We went back and forth like this for a few minutes. It was a horribly awkward situation because we were with all of these people we had never met before.
She was acting like I was being annoying. You know, because, like, drinking and driving is "cool". Everyone does it!
Even her parents, who are both alcoholics.
I stopped short of ripping the keys out of her hands.
She drove home.
It made me incredibly sad and angry. What was I supposed to do? Should I have wrestled her for the keys in front of all of these strangers?
I thought she was a better person than that. I thought she was smarter than that.
It was so disappointing
There is no excuse for driving drunk. I won't even have one
drink and then drive.
Driving is dangerous enough, even without alcohol involved.
If you know you are going to be driving then you shouldn't drink. End of story.
Does alcohol really taste so good that you need to risk your lives and the lives of others?
My favorite excuses are "I'm fine!" or "I'm only driving a short distance"(did you know that most accidents happen within 1 mile of a person's home?) or "I'm a good driver" or "I do it all of the time".
Couples go out all of the time and share a bottle of wine and then drive home. It's WRONG. It is arrogant.
I don't get it. If you drive somewhere, then why would you even start drinking in the first place?
When we were about 19 I found out that my oldest friend had gone out drinking and then drove home. We got into a huge fight over it.
She was saying things like "it was only a mile" and "it was late, no one was on the road", and "I didn't want to pay for a cab."
I told her that I felt like I didn't know her anymore and that I couldn't believe what she was saying to me.
I said "don't you get it? That's what all of the drunk drivers who have killed someone said to themselves when they got in their cars."
I hung up on her. I thought our friendship was over.
She called back later hysterically crying,apologizing, and saying that she realized the severity of what she had done.
She's never done it again.
It happens all of the time. Men do it, Woman do it. 19 Year olds do it. 69 year olds do it. Educated people do it. Uneducated people do it.
Some people do it "just this once" and some people do it every day.
Some people do it because of peer pressure. Some people do it because they think "it will never happen to me"
Tell that to the parents who lost their child because you just couldn't say no to that round of shots, or you didn't want to pay for a cab.
Please choose to be an intelligent,realistic, free thinking person.DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE.
Seriously, leave me a message! .